This week’s column is about the importance of helping kids learn to deal with the fact that things won’t always work out the way they hope.
The topic struck me as timely after reading about this junior high school in Calgary that decided to eliminate its honour roll in order to protect the self-esteem of kids who don’t make the list.
The school has taken quite a beating online for the decision, and I’m among those who think it’s the wrong move. I think it will ultimately hurt those kids more than it will help them.
The reality is there will likely always be someone who is better, stronger, faster or smarter. That doesn’t mean we stop trying; it’s a good reminder to keep working when we feel lazy and to stay humble when we feel our egos growing.
Telling kids that we’ll rewrite the rules just to make them feel good takes away both of those lessons. It tells them protecting their ego is more important than challenging themselves. It might make them feel good in the moment, but it’s not going to do them any favours in life.